Comparison, Control and Contentment
1.) Eliminate The Triggers That Cause You To Compare
Take time to evaluate the triggers that cause you to compare. If going on Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat leads to you comparing yourself and effects your contentment then eliminate it. Go on a social media break. Take a couple weeks, months, etc., however long you need. Use the break time to reflect on the root cause of your lack of contentment. Before anything can be fixed, the problem most be identified. Also, always remember that when it comes to social media, people will only post the high lights of their life. Very rarely will you see individuals posting about their failures, insecurities or missed opportunities. Viewing a couple of instagram photos of someone does not reflect the day to day life of that individual.
http://www.oprah.com//own-oprahs-next-chapter//the-gabrielle-union-speech-that-inspired-oprah
The URL link above leads you to Gabrielle Union’s Essence speech. She shares her struggles with feeling incontent and how she had to hit rock bottom before building herself back up. Gabrielle shares how she used to be intimidated by other women shine and how she used to compare herself to others. In her interview she shares how she found joy and contentment.
As always, thank you for reading this blog. If you have any feedback or any specific topic that you want me to discuss, please leave a comment down below.
Always keeping it real,
Titiana Ngongang
2.) Rotate Your Lens and Change Your Perspective
If your current season in life is not bringing contentment I encourage you to change your perspective. I know people who are currently in seasons of singleness and are becoming incontent. Their sole focus is centered around finding a husband or a wife and they become frustrated when marriage is not happening in their time table. I encourage you to rotate your lens. When you are single, all your time belongs to you. You don’t have to answer to no man or woman nor baby. Change your perspective, focus on the good things you can gain from that season. Make a list of all the positive things that are found in that season and focus on those things.
I guarantee you this, if you can not find contentment while single, a ring on your finger is not going to change anything. If you cannot find contentment without the baby, a 2am hungry and crying baby will not bring contentment. If you cannot find contentment during the waiting season, once you get what you want, you will innately find something else that will make you feel incontent. Being able to be content in all seasons in life, will help you truly live life in the moment and will prevent you from rushing from one season to the next. Eliminating the triggers, rotating your perspective and discovering and focusing on your purpose will help you choose contentment.
3.) Discover And Focus On Your Purpose
When you are focused on your dreams and focused on accomplishing your purpose, you don’t have time to be comparing yourself to others. The first blog I ever wrote was on discovering your purpose. I encourage you to go check out that blog if you are not sure what your purpose in life is. I strongly believe that once you discover your unique calling and you focus on cultivating your craft, you have less time to compare your path to others. Everyone has their own unique path to walk down in life, that’s the beautiful part about life.
I guarantee you this, if you can not find contentment while single, a ring on your finger is not going to change anything. If you cannot find contentment without the baby, a 2am hungry and crying baby will not bring contentment. If you cannot find contentment during the waiting season, once you get what you want, you will innately find something else that will make you feel incontent. Being able to be content in all seasons in life, will help you truly live life in the moment and will prevent you from rushing from one season to the next. Eliminating the triggers, rotating your perspective and discovering and focusing on your purpose will help you choose contentment.
CELEBRITY FOCUS —Gabrielle Union
The URL link above leads you to Gabrielle Union’s Essence speech. She shares her struggles with feeling incontent and how she had to hit rock bottom before building herself back up. Gabrielle shares how she used to be intimidated by other women shine and how she used to compare herself to others. In her interview she shares how she found joy and contentment.
As always, thank you for reading this blog. If you have any feedback or any specific topic that you want me to discuss, please leave a comment down below.
Always keeping it real,
Titiana Ngongang
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